[Phoenix Flame]

Hmmm...you're kinda right.

To be helpful, I'm going to say a blanket statement like "you two should try to talk about things to make it through" or 'do it for your kids' isn't what's going to help....BTW you guys, they're Merie's kids if I remember correctly.

What I've found is that most people want the breakthroughs but aren't willing to go through the breakdowns to get to em. That's like saying you want the rainbow but no rain. Bottom line is, you are going to have difficulties if you two stay together. You have to be committed to going over, around, or under any problem you two face together - if not, it's better you two go your seperate ways now, then drag it on and worsen things for both of you.

I knew it wasn't going to work out with my ex - but I dragged things out because I was blinded by my love and I thought that with enough effort and 'trying hard' to change myself that things would change for us, but they only got worse until what we were left with was one great big ball o s#!+ ...

Umm...that's it. Hope it helps.