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View Poll Results: Is it right to cheat on someone you is in a relionship?
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Old 05-26-2008, 03:49 PM   #106
 
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Re: Cheating

Claps to Leon. Seriously.

I can find a big difference in European and American mentality, that's normal, we're really different.
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Old 05-27-2008, 03:03 AM   #107
 
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Re: Cheating

I stand corrected.
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Old 05-27-2008, 08:42 AM   #108
 
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Re: Cheating

Someday, I'd love to sit down and disect the excuses I gave myself to cheat...the reasons I told myself that I was justified. I think that part of that voice was programming/the culture/etc., but the other part was something dark, malevolent, sollen and basted in isolation and cooked in anger. Everyone has their own excuses/reasons for cheating, but that doesn't give the individual any right to hurt their significant other like that. As far as forgiving themselves...I think that that's really up to the individual. It took me a while to accept what happened and seek forgiveness. I think you can really only find that in humility. I can identify with the ignorance of my surrounding culture, but I think Leon's right. When the day ends, we all have to own-up to what we did with that day. And while cheating may be less on the scale of a game of 'who's the biggest loser,' the potential and realized consequences aren't worth a few fleeting moments of enjoyment. When its staring you in the face and its your emotions on the line - the decision might not look as befitting as to what's going on in your heart and how you feel...but you should always take the other person's feelings into consideration. How would YOU feel if they did this to you? Honestly?



This is just a side note: watch the language from now on...that goes for everyone. Anger doesn't excuse breaking rules either y'know. ;p
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Old 05-29-2008, 09:06 AM   #109
 
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hmmm i wonder what doctor said before phoenix edited that? (yeh, i fixed mypost too)
probably was a bit upset bout my swearin, anyway, sry doc, when u get to know me well enough like the others here u'll know that if there's a thorn in my side i take it out even if i have to cut my self open. so yeh, im sometimes incontrolable with the stuff i say, n everyone's experienced it.... it was just ur turn!

so language behaviour, right!

Now, to phoenix's post!
well ASIDE from influences an all that, i'll use doctor's words to describe this, i despair from someone who cheats while believing whatever reason he has is worth it, n phoenix said it best:
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the potential and realized consequences aren't worth a few fleeting moments of enjoyment.
i mean it's like one of 2 cases:
1- U either DONT cheat on ur other one 2- U break up, n b free to do whatever u want
i just cant see anything in between that shouldnt lead to one of the 2 situations!

ur post cheered me up btw! not because u think im right, but because u considered my oppinion open mindedly while it was concerning ur own country. who knows, i might b wrong, but the fact that u're considering all possibilities feels just right
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Old 05-29-2008, 01:49 PM   #110
 
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Re: Cheating

Actually...she just unneccessarily quoted you...that HUGE quote was just there...and then her changing her mind...so I took out the quote. ^^ Her reply is the same now as it was prior to me editing it...much as yours was SIMILAR...but different. =3
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Old 06-01-2008, 11:36 PM   #111
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No since cheating hurts feelings. People should try to be honest and say "I like someone else more then you. Lets break up because this wouldn't work out" instead of being dishonest.
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...or even: 'I'm sorry, but I've met someone that I want to get to know a little more and see where it leads. I don't want to hurt your feelings, so I'm being honest with you and I hope you respect that....blah blah blah' ...or something similar.
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