How have you asked another out?

[Phoenix Flame]

K, so I was at homegroup tonight and we were talking about male/female relationships; specifically, how one might ask the opposite sex out on a date...even a social 'date.'

So here's why the post: we want to know how you may have asked a new friend, casual acquaintance, love interest, etc. out the first time. What words did you use, how was your composure at the time, and...perhaps more importantly, your would-be date's reaction to your proposal. Please be as honest as possible.

You may also wish to state your reaction to a proposed date... its all good.

I guess I'll begin.

I met Susie at work. She's Asian, so she kinda stood-out (in a good way.) I was never candid with my emotions, so - opposed to stating my interest in intimate dating - I asked her to coffee one night before we elected to work some overtime hours. It was really casual/simple. We had a fabulous time getting to know one another and a few weeks later we had breakfast. We developed a really strong friendship that lasts to this day...romance came a couple of months later (this was over 4 years ago now.)

So how about it. I'll post another story here once in a while as needed to keep the thread alive.

 

[Luis]

But is it referred to finding someone to be with(girl/boyfriend) or to have a fling?

 

[Phoenix Flame]

K, so I was at homegroup tonight and we were talking about male/female relationships; specifically, how one might ask the opposite sex out on a date...even a social 'date.'

Just for laughs, or because you have a genuine interest in getting to know the person better.

 

[Luis]

lol
Then it depends on your specific interest, the other person, the culture...
It also depends on whether the other person is easy going or not.
If it's just for laughs, the other person knows it, and you think you may have fun together, just ask for it. Or if he/she tells you something that is happening to him/her, you may also ask for meeting him/her in a quite place, such that you both talk about that.
But first of all, both of you must have some connection. It's not like meeting a person in the street, and then just saying: 'Perhaps we could meet sometimes!' (though, now that I'm thinking about it... I've made it! But in Germany, and the situation is completely different.)
I think I'm going nowhere with my explanation... XD I'm not sure what do you want me to say reason XD
I'll try it with an example.
I was in Germany, in a disco, waiting in the queue for the checkroom. And I was talking with a Spanish friend of mine (in Spanish, obviously). Then we accidentally pushed the girl behind us, and we said sorry. Then, she 'tried' ('cuz she was german) to say 'Don't worry' in Spanish. Then we started talking to her in German. I ended talking to her in German. After some of her 'Spanish exhibitions' then I suggested her to be m4h Tandem partner. (Which means, we talk for a while in German, so I can learn German and she corrects me, and then in Spanish.) She agree'd, and then she gave me her cell number. I told her I'd call her.
I never did it XD But only 'cuz I was really busy by then! =\

Here in Spain, I used to ask to m4h classmates their number, then sometimes I sent a SMS, just to ask how is everything going. And in time, that makes a connection which gives you a 'reason/excuse' to ask him/her to meet for a while.

 

[Phoenix Flame]

Perfect example... thanks Luis.

 

[Luis]

¡De nada! XD I only had to remember XD lol

 

[Hydra]

¡De nada! XD I only had to remember XD lol

XD

I matured early for m4h age. As in, I wasn't thinking about "smex smex smex" when I was in high school =D. I was trying to score a woman and have a good time, but learn also. The learning part didn't happen much. XD

So when I was a freshman at high school (this is before I met Janice. =S), I met this fine girl. @_@. Her name was Ashley Richardson. She was a Sophomore though, so at the time, I thought I could never win her heart over. XD

When I gathered information that she was single, the next day, I clung to her. In other words, I stayed around her. All day. She thought it was cute. And a little wierd. XD The next day, I got her a bouquet of roses. Not A rose, mind you, that ;cen stops after you grow up. XD

She thought it was very affectionate, and gave me her phone number. Then I just called her and asked her out on a date. =D

It didn't last though, that's the ironic part!

XDD

 

[Luis]

XD

I matured early for m4h age. As in, I wasn't thinking about "smex smex smex" when I was in high school =D. I was trying to score a woman and have a good time, but learn also. The learning part didn't happen much. XD

So when I was a freshman at high school (this is before I met Janice. =S), I met this fine girl. @_@. Her name was Ashley Richardson. She was a Sophomore though, so at the time, I thought I could never win her heart over. XD

When I gathered information that she was single, the next day, I clung to her. In other words, I stayed around her. All day. She thought it was cute. And a little wierd. XD The next day, I got her a bouquet of roses. Not A rose, mind you, that ;cen stops after you grow up. XD

She thought it was very affectionate, and gave me her phone number. Then I just called her and asked her out on a date. =D

It didn't last though, that's the ironic part!

XDD

It doesn't matter. You got it. That's the point! XD ;wel
You're my hero! XD lmao ;ble

 

[Hydra]

Lol, oh please. XD

I haven't had a lot of girlfriends. XD

Just a few long lasting ones.

 

[Keelus Mclain II]

I dont know
I've never asked anyone out really

Would making a basketball shot = a date be considered 'asking out'?

anyway that was long ago.
i dont even date now

 

[Hydra]

You don't even date "now"?

You're only fifteen! XD

Give it a chance later. =D

 

[Phoenix Flame]

XD

I matured early for m4h age. As in, I wasn't thinking about "smex smex smex" when I was in high school =D. I was trying to score a woman and have a good time, but learn also. The learning part didn't happen much. XD

So when I was a freshman at high school (this is before I met Janice. =S), I met this fine girl. @_@. Her name was Ashley Richardson. She was a Sophomore though, so at the time, I thought I could never win her heart over. XD

When I gathered information that she was single, the next day, I clung to her. In other words, I stayed around her. All day. She thought it was cute. And a little wierd. XD The next day, I got her a bouquet of roses. Not A rose, mind you, that ;cen stops after you grow up. XD

She thought it was very affectionate, and gave me her phone number. Then I just called her and asked her out on a date. =D

It didn't last though, that's the ironic part!

XDD

What about Janice... speaking of that - and before I forget - WTF are you going to post a pic of you too nOObz? LOL! ...tell us how you scored her! Nao!!!

;unc

Or I'll send him to get ya ^___^

 

[Hydra]

What about Janice... speaking of that - and before I forget - WTF are you going to post a pic of you too nOObz? LOL! ...tell us how you scored her! Nao!!!

;unc

Or I'll send him to get ya ^___^

Don't you mean HTF and not WTF? XD

 

[Mong00se]

Well you see children. When a man and a woman love eachother, they sometimes cannot hold back their feelings for one another, and they engage in sexual intercourse... oh is this not the sex ed thread (yes rhyming)?

Well, I can't say I've ever really conventionally asked out a girl. I'm 18 and really only had two serious relationships. The first just kinda happened and was unspoken, even though we knew we were going out. One day she asked me 'Are we going out?" and without missing a beat I said "well I certainly hope so!"

The other I'd been into for a long time, and she was from out of town. When we finally got together (mind you we were at a summer camp most of the summer with eachother), I said "so, where do we go from here?" and she kissed me. My own smoothness sometimes eludes even me

 

[Hydra]

Well you see children. When a man and a woman love eachother, they sometimes cannot hold back their feelings for one another, and they engage in sexual intercourse... oh is this not the sex ed thread (yes rhyming)?

Well, I can't say I've ever really conventionally asked out a girl. I'm 18 and really only had two serious relationships. The first just kinda happened and was unspoken, even though we knew we were going out. One day she asked me 'Are we going out?" and without missing a beat I said "well I certainly hope so!"

The other I'd been into for a long time, and she was from out of town. When we finally got together (mind you we were at a summer camp most of the summer with eachother), I said "so, where do we go from here?" and she kissed me. My own smoothness sometimes eludes even me

It eludes me too.

=D

I've had three. One lasted a few months, one lasted a month(Ashley. XD), and there's one in motion right now. =P

 

[Phoenix Flame]

WTF = When The F;cen

Like Nao! ;ang

;clu

Or j00 get HIM ^^

 

[Avathar]

How did I ask a girl out the first time..

I don't remember ; ;

But usually, both me and the girl are really flirty, when it comes to a point after the idle banter, where I blatantly say "I love you."

Not that that's awkward! ..It rather works as a cute strike. o.o But I say it so naturally, not forced at all. And afterwards a hug and a kiss, and I ask her out.

So posing the question itself is really easy. I don't think I ever have any nervous points at all. I'm way too chilled out most of the time to have any nerves like that.

 

[Doctor]

Hmmmmm....*thinks long and hard*

I've always had mixed feelings about asking someone out...it's certainly not the easiest thing in the world to do. @_@

Often times, I have tried to make friends with the person first, to get some sort of friendship going, so that once we were really together, we would know what we had in common, and we would have more things to talk about.

Unfortunately, this method hasn't always worked...

But I can still say it's the only way I've made my way toward asking someone out, and I would rather just stick with that. I think it's better to get to know the person first before you try anything like that.

 

[Axel]

Women just me, it doesnt matter what I do. I finally get a then come to find out she evidently has two other boyfriends!

 

[dappa]

I asked someone out by email recently because I didn't have another way to contact her plus I didn't know where she lives.